Who said you weren't worthy?

Defining your worth

Very often we fall victim to taking what is handed to us and not considering if we deserve more.  In most cases we often believe that some is better than nothing, when in fact the some that we receive is only a fraction of what we are entitled to. We have been taught the take-and-give role so well that we have forgotten to examine if what we are taking is equal to or less than what it is that we are  giving in return. Our rate of exchange has been undervalued.

Knowing your self worth is not the same as knowing the cash value of yourself, but instead it is knowing exactly what you will and will not accept.  This is important for many reasons.  Many times we sell ourselves short by not knowing what it is that we deserve.  Take relationships for example.  Many times we settle for bad...excuse me, incompatible mates, (because there is no such thing as a bad mate, just bad matches) and just learn to roll with it.  He/she may treat you badly, verbally or physically abuse you, and may not care about your well being or your happiness.  Later down then road, after the disastrous relationship has ended, you now find yourself wanting a "good man''or a ''good woman''. But from your previous relationship track record of dealing and accepting what is handed to you for so long, your idea of what a "good man" or a "good woman" is a misconception. For you, anyone that is treating you slightly better than how you were treated before is considered good enough in your eyes. Maybe the new significant other doesn't hit you as often, or maybe they don't call you out your name as often as the one before them did. Before you know it, because you were unaware of your self worth, a cycle is now created, and it will take enormous amounts of time to make you realize that you are worth so much more than what you receive.

I exercise my self worth all of the time.  My friends think I'm picky or stuck up.  I like to say I'm very selective.  I have turned down jobs, mates, business offers, and other things because of my self value.   Crazy you say?  No. Selective. I could have taken every offer that has came my way, but would those offers have satisfied me or block me from receiving better, more intriguing offers?
Lets not get it twisted though...I don't walk around with my nose in the air or anything like that.  I always listen to the offers that are being made available to me, and I am always grateful for any opportunity that is offered to me. Being courteous and respectable always keeps the door open for new opportunities.

So what are the steps to knowing your self worth? Here are 6 easy tips:

1. Analyze your self:  Take time to get to know you and what it is that you want.  No ones knows you like you do!

2.Let your self know that you do matter:  If you have to tell yourself every waking moment that you do matter, do it. If you don't believe it no one else will.

3.Learn to trust you:  You have a built in mechanism that tells you when something is right or wrong. Learn to listen and trust your inner you.

4.Don't let the wants of others shake or mold your self worth: To hell with what they want or how they feel! Don't let anyone use themselves to force you to make a choice that you don't want to make.They will get over it, and so will you.

5. Make it know that your time is valuable: Don't let others use up too much of your time that you could be using taking care of numero uno (YOU!!!)

6.  Follow through:  a plan is only good if you stick to it!

Sometimes it can take years for a person to know their self worth.  Putting aside bad habits of accepting unsatisfactory offers is a hard one to break out of.  But it is certainly something that is never to late to start in order to built the you that not only others will respect, appreciate, and look up to, but someone you can look in the mirror everyday and know that you deserve the absolute best.